Tuesday, 17 June 2025

It is a myth that a monk should not get married

Renouncing material life, losing the sense of self and trying to merge with the truth, and  completely surrendering to spirituality are all things that ascetics do, but my method and belief are different. As much as I am asked, if I am not close to a woman, my energy level tends to decrease. The relationship between a man and a woman is like the negative and positive sides of a battery, or the need.

Therefore, the fact that a monk should not marry creates imperfection. The ancient sages (a sannyasi is the lowest, after Rishi, Muni, siddhas etc.) said that whether a monk is a monk or a commoner, perfection can only be achieved when the negative and positive come together. In my opinion, even if someone who has not achieved perfection walks around saying that he is a monk, that is also a lie.

The Male represents the sun principle (solar energy) — heat, vitality, and activity.

The Female represents the moon principle (cold power) — coolness, protection, and nourishment.

Similarly, the semen produced in the male body is needed to increase spiritual strength and awaken the Kundalini power.  Can an unhealthy person with aversion really achieve Siddhi through devotion? A person without Siddhi is only a monk in name.

When you look at it that way, the absence of one person creates instability in the life and mind of another. When a woman is not around, a man's energy  can take the form of violence like an explosion when it is contained within. 

For a woman who is not close to a man, the lack of weight, security, and nourishment creates uncertainty. When closeness is lost, pride and resentment increase. This creates mental conflicts and physical discomfort.

The Adiyogi, Shiva, has married. The importance of the male-female relationship in the world is shown by the fact that the linga and the yoni are placed together in temples to represent the divine union of Shiva (masculinity) and Parvati (femininity). The water anointing is done to energize this concept of union,  to maintain the energy effect, and to impart the density and alertness of creation.

While pouring water on the Shivalinga is shown to be an integral part of the puja, it is an exhortation to preserve the stability of nature and the cycle of creation and regeneration. Therefore, it expresses the truth that the world exists when the male principle (Shiva) and the direction of the process (Shakti) work together.

In the Tantric interpretation,  only when the male power (Shiva principle) is awakened can the female Kameshwari/Kundalini power be fully developed. If there is no harmony, the Kundalini awakening will be hindered. That is why in Shiva and Parvati temples, water is poured on the linga that has entered through the vagina to show the equal importance of both in the universe. 

The relationship between a man and a woman is a mutual exchange of vital energy. This exchange is not only physical, but also mental and spiritual. The energy of one person   influences the chakras and vital channels of the other.

When a man and a woman are in a balanced relationship, the spiritual and the physical grow together. It is true that a natural balance exists when a man and a woman act as complementary forces.

Then, if you ask why there are monks who don't get married,  it's because the lifestyle of monks is different from that of ordinary people.

They do not tie the knot because it is difficult to look at a woman because they only eat to get alms,  live in peaceful temples,  study in a gurukul or immerse themselves in penance,  and stay away from worldly affairs. They also have all the hormonal functions that occur in any healthy body, so they have the desire to mate. They follow the lifestyle and everything someone tells them with their eyes closed, and do not even know the basic fact that all God needs is the love of the devotee. They think that God is like a school principal who is terribly angry and a scary person who imposes discipline on those who walk with the fear of God, and when they put restrictions on themselves in everything, they add marriage and sex to the list of things that are denied. Because I too have learned that we can achieve devotion, siddhi, and divinity through various techniques. Therefore, my beliefs and methods are different. This is just my opinion.

Shivam Shaktyā Yukto Yadi Bhavati Shaktah Prabhavitum
Na Chedevam Devo Na Khalu Kushalah Spanditum Api

(Shiva becomes capable of creating the universe only when united with Shakti.
Without her, even he has no power to move — he is inert.)

Sannyasam = renunciation + self-realization.
Sam + Nyasa means complete surrender. It only means selflessness.

Asceticism is not a way of life – it is a way of vision.

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